By Sandrea
Imagine you are in a relationship and your better half is not treating you the way he’s suppose to, why would you stay?
I find it strange that so few women has the ability to recognise a bad relationships one’s that they should definitely let go, instead of insisting to hold on for dear life.
This is a story about a women who should definitely ‘let go’.
She met the man eight years ago, lets call her, Sharon. She was with the man for approximately a year when she became pregnant, he allegedly did not want anymore children has he had already have six with two different women, so he told her to have an abortion and she refused. He terminate the relationship and abandoned her and his unborn child. In the proceeding months before the birth of the child he treated her like she had the plague. He did what I believed was the ultimate disrespect that any human being could do to another.
They happen to attend the same function which ran very late, she stated that it was raining heavily that night and after the function she and a friend left to go home him having a car, she thought he would offer to take the friend and her home given the weather conditions, but instead he drove passed her at the bus stop three o’clock in the morning during the pouring rain and she at the time was in her seven month of pregnant.
Three months after the baby’s birth he found himself back into her life, and she let him, using his so-called ‘charm’ and she fell for it hook line and sinker. Once bank he pretended that he was sorry for what he has done and low and behold two years after he came back she was pregnant. He left her again she had to rely on her family and friends to see her through yet another pregnancy. He took no part, all he did was curse the living daylight out of her accused her of trying to hold on to him by having all these kids and he did not want that.
Because she is a plus size woman he uses every opportunity to put her down, destroy her self esteem in every way that he could, and again she had to go through another pregnancy without him being there. When the baby was borned, this time he came back within a month using his charms again he apologise for his bad behaviour and although friends and family kept warning her that he was using her because he knew he could literally get anything he wanted from her, all the advice fell on deaf ear. He finally charmed his way into letting her move him into her home , because he became homeless.
This changed nothing he disrespected her just the same and this time he was disrespecting her in the present of her mother and she still could not see. He never took her out, he goes out by himself comes back home late the next morning and each time he his out he constantly has a string of slim women around him and if she dare said anything about his behaviour he would curse her out, but still she was mesmerised by the man she cannot let him go.
Now he has been around for about three years, she gave birth to baby number three five months ago. The relationship has not changed he still treat her like dirt, called her ever name under the sun and yet she still hang on to him as if her life and her very existence depended on this one useless man. Having recognised that she does not just love him she his obsessed about him he has been exploiting it to the max.
In my opinion, do not allow yourself to fall in this trap. These relationship are very unhealthy. Considering that Sharon has told everyone who would listen how badly he has treated her, she still find every excuse to justify staying in this, clearly bad relationship and what is even sadder is bring children into it.
Women need to be strong in their resolve, they need to recognise and see the signs of a bad relationship and stop it before it drag them down. The best relationship there is begin with the individual. The ability to love yourself and when you have the capacity to be in love with you, then you are able to love someone else and the moment they start to use you, you are able to recognise the signs, do not allow your self to be disrespected. Demonstrate that you need a two-sided relationship, make him aware that this is about two people coming together to form a union and not a one sided affair.
If you do then you will have the making of a happy and long term relationship with mutual respect from both side and life with your chosen partner will definitely be fulfilling.
When it is not right then let it go.
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