By Sandrea
Disrespect is a pit-fall to a relationship and It always amaze me when a women allowed herself to be disrespected.
I feel passionate about this subject because it is very dear to my heart and because I have a family member who has been tolerating this behaviour from the father of her children for far too long. She just cannot seems to get it through her head that if he disrespect you once and you allow it then he sees it as a blue print to continue that same bad behaviour.
Recently we were out and he had been calling her and she forgot her phone at home, well he eventually found out where we were and he came along . Instead of calling her and speaking to her in private, he just shout at her in front of several people and the expletives that he used was disgusting. Can you imagine my surprise when she said that she was going home with him after what he did.
There are no given reason why a man should disrespect his girlfriend or his wife. Everyone would agree that relationship are sometimes difficult and needs to be worked on in order for it to thrive. However, I cannot see why people cannot communicate effectively when they have a disagreement.
If your better half started to call you names, find fault in everything that you do, put you down every chance he get, does things to destroy your self esteem, try and control your ever being, then something is fundamentally wrong with that relationship so, you either get the courage to fix it or get out.
One of the things that I have noticed around the males that I have encountered on a daily basis his that most of them their so-called girlfriend or wife is normally a plus size woman, not that they did not know that before they started a romantic relationship. Yet it seem that they then turned around and use the weight to disrespect their woman, shatter what little self-esteem these women have and then totally control their lives.
Women in these situation need to start doing something to take control of their lives. You are in an adult relationship, do not let him treat you like a child.
Most females are aware when they are been disrespected, and the minute this start you have to stamp on it hard, he needs to know that you are not going to put up with his bull, you are not going to allow yourself to be treated like a something that he can walk all over.
I find that when a woman stands up for herself, most men back off, especially it that person is mild manner. Recently I happen to stay overnight at a mild manner friend of mine, and whatever the problems were between her and the boyfriend, I did not asked, but to say I was proud when she stood up to him, let him know in no uncertain terms that she would not be tolerating anymore of his bad behaviour and that she was willing to put him out of her house, well to say he was shock would be putting it mildly. He spend the whole day apologising, even cook the Sunday dinner, something he has never done.
She has been communicating with me and from what she told me he’s a change person since that Sunday. So it can happen.
What I am saying to anyone who is going through this, do not accept it,
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