By Sandrea:- MY GRIPE
It is so easy when you find yourself in certain unflattering situation, especially when it has to do with relationships, to be so angry that you are willing to label all of mankind.
There are obviously, men that are truly ‘dogs’, however, irrespective of the fact that you may meet one of the dogs, is no reason to categorised all men in that manner.
It is important that a woman do not allow herself to be either physical or verbally abuse by no one and in particular your spouse. I take the view that two adults should be able to discuss their differences in a mature and adult manner, without all this name calling, and verbal diatribe.
When a relationship reached the point where abuse become second nature then there is no need for anyone to try and fix it, because no form of abuse should be tolerated by either sex. Most people would not believe that there are men who are being abuse by their females companions, the numbers make be smaller than those of the women being abuse by males, but it happen men are just as susceptible to be abused.
I cannot understand what would drive a women or a man to stay with a person that abuse them. I find it strange when people gave the reason for staying with an abuser , as ‘love’. I love him/her is their response. If people understand the true meaning of love then they would not have so much problems in relationship.
When you love someone then you cannot have any kind of feeling that will allow you to want to hurt them. Most people are confusing ‘control’ with love. If a person abuses you whether phscially or verbally then precede to tell you afterwards that s/he loves you and they promise that it will not happen again, is bull. Abuser have a control mechanism which they use on their partners, which is to sweet talk them after they have undertaken their bad behaviour.
The fact that mostly women buy into this bull, that I find very hard to believe. I personally believe that the issue has nothing to do with love, more to do with self-esteem. When some one self-esteem is very low then they are easily manipulated and these are radars that abuser pick up on very quickly.
When these abuser meet men or women who are strong and independent they will never pursue relationships with those individuals because they know that their control mechanism will not work on them.
I do not believe that all men are dogs, but unfortunately, there are a lot of them that fall into that category, and they seems to be the ones who are capable of finding silly women that they can control and bully.
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