A young Toronto woman who won science fairs, was a papal visit delegate and volunteered for the Liberals has become tabloid fodder in New York over a nasty divorce dispute with her husband involving their sex videos.
Lily Shang, 24, alleges her Manhattan investor husband has threatened to post the couple’s intimate videos online if she doesn’t agree to a low financial settlement.
“A girl doesn’t marry a man without absolutely trusting him — at least most girls don’t. Whatever was done between us was when we were married, when there was that trust. No one could imagine that such a thing could be broken,” Shang told the Star.
Shang married David Glenn Rucker in Toronto in April 2009. They lived in Manhattan and separated after 18 months of marriage.
Shang made the allegations about the sex videos in a court filing. She alleges Rucker threatened to edit himself out before posting them online.
Shang said she was “devastated” when she realized the allegations she filed in court were picked up by New York tabloids, which have characterized her as a “party girl.”
“Divorce is a very difficult and private matter. Unfortunately this has taken a turn for the worst. It’s sad that a private matter has become public in this way,” Shang said.
Rucker, 26, a managing partner and head trader at the boutique asset management firm Golden Archer Investments in Manhattan, told the Daily News he would never release footage that could damage his career. He did not respond to the Star’s request for an interview.
“Would anyone admit to blackmail if you asked them on the record?” Shang responded. “David always says what’s in his best interest.”
Shang’s dilemma is a world apart from her past in Toronto. Her resumé shows an impressive array of experience —an ongoing berth on the Weston Collegiate Institute honour roll, a chess club member and calculus tutor.
She was a World Youth Day delegate during Pope John Paul II’s visit to Toronto.
And she balanced her studies as an honours economics and financial management student at Wilfrid Laurier University with her volunteer work during the 2006 Liberal leadership campaign.
Shang wrote in a blog of her experiences as a Liberal volunteer: “Learning that electric-blue suede pumps, a miniskirt, a blue sweater and Gucci bag can get you enough credibility with the Conservative camp to flirt your way into finding out their numbers two days before the election, only to bump into and be recognized by members of the Conservative camp the same day while canvassing the same poll for the Liberals.”
Lowell Hall, director of operations for LH Metropolis Communications where Shang was a summer intern in 2007, called her a “gem”.
“She’s so smart. Smart as a whip,” he said, adding it’s upsetting to see such “a young brilliant lady” being threatened.
“This is what you would call a worst-case scenario nightmare that no young woman could imagine or even fathom to endure. Someone who they trust and loved under the circumstances to dangle something of this nature publicly over their head,” Hall said.
Jay Telegdi, who met Shang in 2006 while volunteering for the Young Liberals, said the party girl persona does not fit.
“She’s really driven. She always won awards in school. She’s a talented violinist. And she’s totally able to accomplish stuff on her own,” Telegdi said. “She wouldn’t have to rely on a man — or anyone else to get ahead.”
Shang plans to stay in Manhattan once the divorce is final. However, she hasn’t ruled out returning to Toronto.
“Wherever I live, Toronto is always going to be home,” she said.