Desperate – But wait

By Sandrea

There is a lot of single female that seems to be extremely desperate to be in a relationship.  This seems to be among the 30 – 50 years old.  It appears that they are of the impression that if they are not in a relationship then something must be wrong with them.

Doing lonely is not a crime and before you go and pick up anything thing just to prove that you can have a man you need to think carefully about what you really need in a man.  Just because you family or your friends’ maybe in committed relationship does not mean that you have to be in one.

Sometimes you have to find yourself, get your act and your life together.  Be free to be yourself and not have to think about another person just about who you are and what you want out of life.  Finding yourself is the most important aspect of ensuring that you eventually get involved in a productive and lasting relationship.

The right person often comes along when you’re most content with yourself, not desperate for change. If you act too desperate for a relationship then you run the risk of accepting anything just so you can convince yourself that you, like the rest of the world have a man.  However, the price you could pay for your desperation could be a lot more than if you simply wait for the right person to come to you.

Human being have a propensity to want to feel the warmth of another individual, we do not feel good until we have a partner and then for reasons best know to us we believe that we are whole.  But you can be whole by yourself and you should not need a man to validate who and what you are.

If you are single and your friends are in commit relationships be happy for them, if they invite you to go out with them then do so, show them that you can be happy all by your lonesome and if you exude confidence then the right person is going to come along and when he does you will surprise yourself as to how much more progressive you liaison will be.

If, as previously stated, you are single then there are a few rule that you should make for yourself:-

Do not rush into the arms of the first man that you meet

Raise your self esteem to a level which will ensure that you choose correctly

Do no enter into a relationship just so you do not feel lonely

Always make yourself attractive

Do not look as if you are down and out

Get involve with charity events

Go out with your friends and have a great time

If you have children make sure that your children see that you can be happy just being with them

Do not complain to your family are friends that you feel lonely

Always remember that when you smile the world smiles with you, but when you cry you do so by yourself.

Embrace who you are and when you find that happy place in being by yourself where you’re not only fulfilled about your activities and plans, but prefer to carry on singly rather than try out some guy, you’ll be a magnet for serious interest.