Men come and go – Children are for life

By Sandrea- MY GRIPE

It seems that more and more these days women have the tendencies to put men above their children and this is a feat that I find difficult to understand.

In most cases, when the relationship with the children natural father breaks down these women with pick up no good men and put them above their children, and in some cases women have even murdered their children just so that they can continue relationship with a man.

Women needs to understand that if you meet a man and he does not want children or want to care about the children that you have then the natural thing for a mother to do is to drop that relationship like a ‘hot bread’.  The children should always be the number one priority in ones life and anything that prevent that from happening is counter- productive.

It is inconceivable to see how any decent woman can put the needs of man over their children, but unfortunately it seems to happen a lot more frequent than is reported and the only times that these issues come to the fore front is when a tragedy occur such as the ones where this idiotic woman kill her children because the man she was involved with did not want kids.

There as got to be some kind of trigger for social services and other agencies to recognise when children are at risk because of their mother infatuation with the men in their lives.  I find it very difficult to comprehend what some women go through in their lives in order for them to abuse, murder, and neglect their kids when they get involved with certain relationship.

Are some women self-esteem so low that they believe that the only way to feel good within themselves is to neglect their children in order to get the affection of a man. I suppose, as they say that ‘unless you walk into someone shoe, you cannot understand’.

But for me the thought that I would hurt my children as never occurred to me and even when my children’s father and Separated it took me 15 years to even contemplate having a relationship with a man. My children were so young when their father and I part, there was no way any other man was going to come into my life, now that they are all over 18 years old, I am still young enough to pursue a relationship should I choose to.

I am not advocating that every woman has to take the drastic steps that I did, but if you choose a relationship for heaven sake do not choose a man over your children.