By Sandrea:- MY GRIPE
I would like to take this opportunity on this Father’s day to say a big thank you to all those fathers out there who are taking care of their children, who are meeting the responsibilities of fatherhood with zeal and vigour.
Having said that, I am however, very disappointed with the men who have abandoned their children ,those who have father so many children with so many different women that they do not have the ability to care, love, nurture and be in the lives of their off-springs.
Research have shown that the rise in one-parent families started as far back at the 1960’s, and this trend has created a society of children that have serious anti-social behaviour.
Documented evidence has shown that in most single parent house-hold there is a likelihood that those families live below the poverty lines, absentee fathers are linked to economic pressures. That one in four children has no contact with their biological father, this is disgraceful.
As fathers day is celebrated around the world there are children out there who wont see their father and these fathers are unware, or do no care about the trauma that they are inflicting on these children.
It breaks my heart to read that 50% of white and 80% of black children are living in one parent family and do not have contact with their biological fathers.
It should also be noted that research shows that fatherless children are at risk of earlier sexual activities, drugs, alcohol abuse, mental illness, suicide, poor education teen pregnancy and criminality.
When stats shows that 43% of prison imates grew up in single parent house-hold, I believe that, it is time that society do something about these frightening figures.
The researcher into this problem are not saying that there are not children who are raised in one-parent environment that did not achieve, or turned out to be productive citizen, however, these are few and far between.
I would ask the the dead-beat fathers out there to use this day start taking an active part in their children lives and to stop us cultivating a society where our children will become outcast.
Relationships, marriages they do fail, but it is important that when children are involved that adults strive to ensure that both parents take an active part in the way they children are raised, neither parent should walk away and forget the children. The mothers out there that are using their children as weapons because they are mad with their ex-husbands or partners, should take a look at the stats and realise that they are doing their children an injustice.
I can buy into the fact that children are better raised in two-parent family as I am a product of that environment and my sisters and I knew that we could not step out of line because all our mother had to say to us was ‘wait till your dad come home’, that was enough to pull us back on the straight and narrow.
I do not think we can lay the blame for father-less children purely on men, these so-called mothers played a big part in the number of children that have no contact with their father. These women continued to have children for men who they are pretty sure will not be around to help them raised their children, and especially the younger mothers they do not see anything wrong with that scenario.
Children learn from what they see and the environment that they evolve in and if we constantly keep having children and being one-parent then our children are going to continue this trend when they become adults. I believe that their is still a window of opportunity to begin turning back this trend and we should take it to ensure that we do not continue to see children in society that are classed as fatherless, unless God-forbid, their father is dead.
😆 HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO ALL DADS – UNFROTUNATELY I LOSS MY DAD 14 YEARS AGO, BUT THIS DAY STILL MEANS A LOT TO ME, IT SERVES AS A CONSTANT REMINDER OF WHAT A WONDERFUL FATHER I HAD.
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