By Sandrea:- MY GRIPE
When you read the article ‘8 signs of a rocky relationship’, I imagine that there are a lot of women and men who find themselves in precisely that circumstance. The problem however, is why would anyone want to live in a bad relationship.
If you are in a relationship and there are no physical contact – (meaning no sex), then obviously there is a fundamental problem in that relationship. If you try to determine the cause and either of the individuals is not interesting in repairing that aspect of the relationship, then you have a problem. However, if you continue to behave as if there is nothing wrong, in that you continue to do all the things that you normally would have done, then you are telling your partner that the sexual aspect of the relationship is not important.
In that situation, no wonder the woman/man takes advantage, as he/she cannot believe that anyone can be so stupid, the minute you find that there is a problem in the relationship then you should try to fix it and if you cannot then you should get out. But some individuals would rather to stay in a bad relationship just so that they can save face, they would rather pretend that everything is find in order that those around them believe they have a great life, when it is completely the opposite.
Women who stay in bad relationship, might do so because of their children, or the fact that they believe that they cannot find anyone else. That is a low self-esteem issue, which can be addressed if they seek advice from a reputable counsellor.
Unhealthy relationship is not good for anyone, people should try to be happy, find a partner that they can communicate with, do things together, and most importantly take about their hope and dreams, just going through the motion so that you can say that you are in a relationship, is as bad has having no relationship at all.
Being alone is not a crime, it is better to be by yourself and search for a person who will make you happy rather than stifle yourself and pretend that you are happy in a bad relationship when clearly it is not so.
As all relationship expert will tell you, your relationship is like a plant you have to nurture the plant in order for it to grow and thrive, if you don’t it will wither and die.
The worse kind of relationships are those where the women trapped the men by having children, knowing full well that the man will stay just for the sake of his children, that is the ultimate betrayal for a female to undertake, and when the men trapped the women by making sure they are constantly pregnant, pushing out babies like there is no tomorrow, then it makes it harder for her to find a new relationship, with more than two kids, that his also disgusting.
But you began to wonder why would anyone allowed themselves to be trapped like that, be it male are female, what would make a person stay in a relationship that is clearly unhealthy, those kind of relationship, takes a toll on your health, it stresses you out, make you feel unloved – so why stay, – just leave.
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