By Sandrea: MY GRIPE
Firstly, let me say that I am not condoning or condemning arrange marriages. It is not my culture – I am only voicing my comments
It would seem that more and more children born in western society from parents that originate from countries that arrange marriages or common-place, are rebelling against these marriages. I can imagine, although I do not understand the complexity of these marriages, that these parents are trying to do the best for their children.
However, these parents should understand that although they grew up in their native countries and arrange marriages where part and parcel of their lives, the children that are born in western society have a different take on the subject. These children grew up going to school, playing communicating with other children from different back-ground and they learn from early that one of the fundamental aspect of our freedom, among other things is the right to choose our life-partners.
Therefore, these young people are not going to easily allowed their parents to choose who they should or should not marry. Maybe their parent way is the best way, but these parents have to understand the once they choose to make countries like the UK, US, Australia, Canada, their abode, the rules are different from their native land and they should respect this and allow their children born in these society to choose their own partners.
It is the right of every individual to make their own mistakes. That is how we grow and develop coping mechanism to deal will every day life.
Forcing these young people to go back to their native countries to marry, in most cases, men or women they do not really know is in my view wrong. The UK and other countries culture are different and as such these young people should not be forced into these marriages. If, however they agree with their parent choice of husband or wife, then that is also their right to exercise these choice.
I pick on this subject because of the case of the Australian girl who called the authority and ask for help to stop her mother and stepfather taking her to Lebanon for an arrange marriage.
The Australian story will follow.
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